This made me laugh out loud, but couldn’t be more true. Some people hide behind masks so often that you don’t know who they are, but once they show you who they really are. Like Maya Angelou said, believe them the first time!!
I must fist start by saying, I am a lover of love. Love of things, people, etc. Everything about it; the feelings, the gestures, the intimacy, the commitment…I love to see people who are madly in love with each other and aren’t afraid to show it.
They say with age comes wisdom but is that really the case when your still making fundamental mistakes? One of m favorite quotes.
“We waste time looking for the perfect lover instead of creating the perfect love.
People go through things I get it, but if you fall in love with someone, why wouldn’t you fight for that love and work to keep it going. Someone once told me that I just didn’t understand and sometimes as relationships get stale it is a normal occurrence for one or both partners to fulfill their needs with another person. However, it appears that communication goes out the window and honesty takes a back seat. Sorry with age I have learned that life is too short to be living a lie. If your not happy in a relationship why stay in it? I definitely don’t have all the answers what do you think?
Yes definitely easier said than done. What does that even mean; find your happy? How do you do that? There is really No quick fix to finding your happy. There are different things that you can start to do. You can begin this journey by loving the most important person in the universe, Chose how to live life, how to deal with moments of uneasiness and deciding who has the privilege to accompany you on this journey.
The most important person in the universe is you. So loving you is definitely a main step. To love yourself you have to begin by really seeing yourself for who you are. You have to be honest with yourself and own your own crazy if you have to do that too. It will be very important to use loving language towards yourself, from the start to the finish of your day. Be willing to surrender and let go of all that you perceive to be holding you back. Most important of all, be patient with yourself, this was probably the hardest for me, giving myself time and space to make mistakes and learn from them.
One of my motto’s is to live the life you love ….. Start by enjoying activities you love, If you love to find fresh ingredients at the farmers market and cooking meals while sipping wine, guess what, then do that..get rid of the excuses and live the life you love. This may also include not doing things other people want you to do and being comfortable enough to tell some people no.
Try new things, if you want to travel and can’t really afford to venture outside of the country then find new places in your state or area to explore. If you always wanted to be a chef but life has taken you in a different direction and you are content with your new path, you may still have the itch to maybe make new and exciting meals for your family. Try taking cooking classes, do what you love to do in some capacity.
Moments of uneasiness will happen. You will have challenges, you may have days where you say to hell with happy, and guess what again, you are allowed those moments. They should be just that though, moments. Life can throw some things at us. So expect that things will happen and as crazy as it may sound, my mother always say if your alive then it will be OK. Some things may take longer than others but you will figure it out if your willing to do something about whatever it is. Remember also that it is great to challenge yourself and want to achieve greatness, but remember you are enough an in some capacity you have what you need to get to where you need to go.
Surround yourself with the right people. Who are they? Those who genuinely love you and want the best for you. Include in that circle, the go getter; those doing everything to achieve their dreams. Don’t include those who are out to block your blessings. There is nothing more of a kill joy than a pessimistic know it all walking around with bad juju lingering in your crew. These are the people who are never happy about any of your accomplishments and those who criticize everything professing to know everything having there own agenda.
Remember happiness, comes with the choices you make, it is a choice choose to be happy. Set sight on your capabilities and achieve them. The only person that really hold the key to your happiness is you. . let me ask you this loves, what is your happiness scale and how do you maintain your happiness?
As I sit looking at the rain fall through the sky filled with yellows and oranges of the sunset, feeling a cool moist breeze blow across my face. Smelling the odor of the raw earth, the droplets of rain, fall faster and faster until it becomes a steady downpour. I drift back to when I was a young girl and heavy downpours, flashes of lightening, and thunder frightened me. I would want to cuddle for protection. However, as the years went by, my love affair with rain began and then there was the inclusion of affection.
So what is a soulful rain shower; my quirky saying. Well it’s one of those days where it’s just too wet to go anywhere and all you want to do is stay home, listen to the water droplets fall, hearing the drops tapping on different objects like an electronic drum or add some soulful music and let your imagination go. Reminiscing on memories pleasing to your soul, sending you into a state of deep relaxation.
It is also thought to be romantic. For example, the moment when nothing else matters, getting lost in someones eyes. Feeling overwhelmed with emotion as they lean closer to plant a kiss on your now wet face. Many have professed this through music. I often incorporate music in everything and there have been some amazing songs created with rain as the leading lady. I am pretty sure that I have not included everybody’s favorite. Check out my list. Each song elicit different memories; different places in time throughout my life. Even the most controversial on the list that sent the entire world in an uproar when it was realized that they were not really singing. Here are my top pics in no specific order. What are yours?
♥Rain on Me: Ashanti
♥Love Rain: Jill Scott
♥Can you stand the rain: New Edition
♥Nights like this: After 7
♥Blame it on the rain: Milli Vanilli
♥It never rains in southern California: Tony Toni Tone
♥Candy Rain: Soul For Real
♥The Rain: Missy Elliot
♥Summer Rain: Carl Thomas
Why is rain so soothing? Some believe that it is related to the sounds we heard in the womb. What are your thoughts? Do you think showers in different locations alter your mood in different ways? Take a moment to check out the sights and sounds of rain on the Rainy Mood website.
Love maybe the most magnificent feeling ever. I love love. According to Mariam Webster, love is: a (1) : strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties (2) : attraction based on sexual desire : affection and tenderness felt by lovers (3) : affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests
b : an assurance of affection
Maybe you would like to share your views on love. Which quote did you like the most, or what is a favorite love quote of yours that is not listed?
So in celebrating me this year……
I traveled across the globe to Amsterdam, Netherlands. I read mixed reviews about many hotels, but decided to stay at the Park Plaza Victoria; for numerous reasons but the main reason, location, location, location!
Books I have enjoyed through the years…….
Loved the feisty red head Anne…
When I fell in love with Poetry……
What I have recently read….My Man Walter Mosley